LL #42 | Feedback as Projection, Full Expression, and a Recipe for Change
Eat your Feedback. Suppression begets Suppression. Change requires novel awareness and novel action.
Feedback is Projection
All feedback is projection.
We can’t see flaws in others that we don’t see in ourself.
If you find yourself judging harshly or giving strong feedback, eat it:
How is that judgment true about you?
What does it cost you that you to not accept that part of yourself?
Unlocking Full Expression
You are a complex and interconnected being. When you suppress yourself in one way, you suppress yourself somewhere else too.
When you suppress your anger, you stifle your creativity.
When you suppress your sadness, you stifle your joy.
When you suppress your fear, you stifle your inner child and your capacity for wonder and awe.
When you withhold truths, you disconnect from yourselves and others.
The road to full expression is a progressive expansion of your capacity to feel all of your feelings and speak all of your truths. Not in the interest of being right, but in the interest of being whole and seen.
Change = Increased Self-Awareness + Novel Action
Change = Increased Self-Awareness + Novel Action
Novel Action without increased Self-Awareness is perpetuation of the same patterns over and over again.
Increased Self-Awareness without Novel Action is mental masturbation.
To effectively change, you need both.
Tweets of the Week
“Nobody Knows What They’re Doing” is Bullshit
There are people who are very good at what they do. To claim nobody knows what they’re doing is set a ceiling that is much lower than it gets to be.
It’s not a problem to not know what you’re doing, AND there are people who know what they’re doing and are incredible at it.
The Power of Focus
The biggest trick for productivity isn’t any hack or technique, but what you choose to ignore.
You Don’t Need more Tactical Advice
I advise reading the entire thread. This point is simple: we are drowning in people telling us what to do for health, wealth, better sleep, better sex, closer relationships.
You don’t need any more hacks or tactics. We are tactic-ed to the brink. What you need is to slow down, to reflect, and to reconceptualize: who are you, what’s in your way, what are you afraid of, what are your limiting beliefs, how can you rewrite some of those?
Charlie Munger Watching Crypto Crash this Week
Sharing because it made me laugh.
Self-explanatory, so long as you know:
Questions of the Week
What is a harsh judgment you find yourself regularly making of others? What are the costs of not accepting that part of yourself? How can you experiment with playing up that part of yourself over the next week?
What is one emotion you commonly suppress? How can you find a healthy way to channel it this week?
Do you need to overindex on self-awareness or novel action? How can you practice the other this week?